Something happens to a woman when you tell her you are no longer interested, you no longer want her. Those words ignite something in her, and she becomes just plain CRAZY. I think even women would agree with this, I know that I do. I know several women who are presently enduring the break of a relationship...and, while most of them are doing very well..I do know a few who are just not fairing as gracefully.
Why is this? My theory is that we, as women, forget that we have a worth outside of a man. We REALLY do! And, to some women this comes as a shock. You know, truthfully, if he does not want you...why would you want him? You want him, because he doesn't want you. We so often want what we cannot have...what is unattainable.
I have a few friends who find themselves in the dating arena and I am always so surprised at how women hang on each last word a man says...and, my goodness, the text message thing! "He hasn't responded to my text. It's been an hour." I just want to shake these girls, and tell them '...who cares! Go outside...go for a run...I can assure you the moment you stop hanging on their every word and do something good for yourself...that's when he will come around.'
It is my belief that most men are highly attracted to strong women who are capable of making their place in this world without a man holding their hand. Think about it. Do you really want to be the woman that cannot make a decision without the approval of a man? Do you really want to base all of your decisions, and moves on the desires of someone else or pleasing someone other than yourself? (now, once we are in a relationship we must consult the other person on major decisions...but, put on your big girl panties and have an opinion)
Some women put so much energy into convincing a man to love them, want them, and to desire them.... (I am not saying that we should not put thought and energy into making ourselves appealing...I think we should...) however, some of us lose ourselves, and our true sense of self in the process.
And, when it comes to breakup's....grieving is normal, and it is healthy...but, maybe focus a bit of that sad energy into something good for YOU. Plug that energy into YOU....start running, start writing, start doing something for YOU...something that makes YOU feel amazing. I guess I have yet to meet a man that fell in love with a woman who was wallowing in her over sized sweats, eating Ben and Jerry's, and watching Day's of our Lives.
And, I have also found that when it comes to breakup's women are so convinced there was a flaw that drove the man off. Perhaps there WAS a flaw that he just could not live with...but, that "flaw" is more than likely part of who you are as a person. I'm also convinced that the man that falls in love with you will love even your "flaws." Rob and I were talking sometime ago about things we just do not like about ourselves. My list goes on, and on, and yet it seems that the things Rob likes MOST about me are the things I dislike.
Women, find your strength...be beautiful FOR YOU. Make yourself feel pretty...but, do not do it just for a man to want you. Be beautiful for YOU. Have passion, have drive,and make a place for yourself. Have interests that might not interest him...because it does give you some individuality.
Why is this? My theory is that we, as women, forget that we have a worth outside of a man. We REALLY do! And, to some women this comes as a shock. You know, truthfully, if he does not want you...why would you want him? You want him, because he doesn't want you. We so often want what we cannot have...what is unattainable.
I have a few friends who find themselves in the dating arena and I am always so surprised at how women hang on each last word a man says...and, my goodness, the text message thing! "He hasn't responded to my text. It's been an hour." I just want to shake these girls, and tell them '...who cares! Go outside...go for a run...I can assure you the moment you stop hanging on their every word and do something good for yourself...that's when he will come around.'
It is my belief that most men are highly attracted to strong women who are capable of making their place in this world without a man holding their hand. Think about it. Do you really want to be the woman that cannot make a decision without the approval of a man? Do you really want to base all of your decisions, and moves on the desires of someone else or pleasing someone other than yourself? (now, once we are in a relationship we must consult the other person on major decisions...but, put on your big girl panties and have an opinion)
Some women put so much energy into convincing a man to love them, want them, and to desire them.... (I am not saying that we should not put thought and energy into making ourselves appealing...I think we should...) however, some of us lose ourselves, and our true sense of self in the process.
And, when it comes to breakup's....grieving is normal, and it is healthy...but, maybe focus a bit of that sad energy into something good for YOU. Plug that energy into YOU....start running, start writing, start doing something for YOU...something that makes YOU feel amazing. I guess I have yet to meet a man that fell in love with a woman who was wallowing in her over sized sweats, eating Ben and Jerry's, and watching Day's of our Lives.
And, I have also found that when it comes to breakup's women are so convinced there was a flaw that drove the man off. Perhaps there WAS a flaw that he just could not live with...but, that "flaw" is more than likely part of who you are as a person. I'm also convinced that the man that falls in love with you will love even your "flaws." Rob and I were talking sometime ago about things we just do not like about ourselves. My list goes on, and on, and yet it seems that the things Rob likes MOST about me are the things I dislike.
Women, find your strength...be beautiful FOR YOU. Make yourself feel pretty...but, do not do it just for a man to want you. Be beautiful for YOU. Have passion, have drive,and make a place for yourself. Have interests that might not interest him...because it does give you some individuality.