There is something so appealing in just being aloof when we are sad. Isn't there? Maybe going back to bed just when we want, being late to things we are obligated to be on time for...., not returning phone calls....., just doing as we wish. Why? Well, my theory is that it is much easier to live by our own wishes than what everyone else needs, and expects of us when we are sad. It's easier to toss our obligations to the side while we spend our time being sad, or depressed...or just plain whatever...
BUT, I'm here to tell you that there is beauty in structure...there is beauty in having those that count on us, and obligations we are required to meet. I think it is a very ill conceived notion that a stay-at-home-mom has no schedule, and no obligations. FALSE FALSE FALSE! I have MORE obligations, and more that rides on me being where I'm supposed to be when I'm supposed to be there now more than ever. These little kids count on me to get them where they need to be, they count on Mom to get up each day and make the world spin. They count on everything from us. So, in my sadness...and in my grief I am finding so much beauty in the fact that I must still maintain a certain amount of structure. Now, that's not to say I'm not giving myself time to grieve...I still am. But, I am still meeting my Motherly obligations, and SELF obligations.
I also have an obligation and task to teach my little children that it's ok to be sad...and hurt in life sometimes, sometimes we just need to feel those emotions...BUT, life still has to continue and our worldly obligations still must be met. I have a job to show them how to carry on and continue on even in those hard times. It's a balancing act really.
Structure can really help us. It can give us something to live by and occupy us when we need it. The obligations in life are too a blessing if we make the choice to see them that way.
So, I think women of beauty do live by a certain amount of structure and they hold their accountability up high...even in the hard times...
BUT, I'm here to tell you that there is beauty in structure...there is beauty in having those that count on us, and obligations we are required to meet. I think it is a very ill conceived notion that a stay-at-home-mom has no schedule, and no obligations. FALSE FALSE FALSE! I have MORE obligations, and more that rides on me being where I'm supposed to be when I'm supposed to be there now more than ever. These little kids count on me to get them where they need to be, they count on Mom to get up each day and make the world spin. They count on everything from us. So, in my sadness...and in my grief I am finding so much beauty in the fact that I must still maintain a certain amount of structure. Now, that's not to say I'm not giving myself time to grieve...I still am. But, I am still meeting my Motherly obligations, and SELF obligations.
I also have an obligation and task to teach my little children that it's ok to be sad...and hurt in life sometimes, sometimes we just need to feel those emotions...BUT, life still has to continue and our worldly obligations still must be met. I have a job to show them how to carry on and continue on even in those hard times. It's a balancing act really.
Structure can really help us. It can give us something to live by and occupy us when we need it. The obligations in life are too a blessing if we make the choice to see them that way.
So, I think women of beauty do live by a certain amount of structure and they hold their accountability up high...even in the hard times...