"The more we reveal of ourselves-the more vulnerable and transparent we are-the more appealing, attractive, and authentic we become."
-Thin Again-
I really had no idea what to write about today, and discovered this quote from a wonderful book 'Thin Again,' and realized that was just perfect! Revealing ourselves, our TRUE self is really difficult, especially in a society that would have us believe we all should, and need to be perfect. I've said it so many times this past year, to Rob especially that I admire anyone who can humble themselves enough to ask for forgiveness...and who can say what is true. Anyone who can admit to a struggle, profess a struggle, and show who they really are..I admire that, there is something very real, very stark about that to me. There are so many people in my history that have molded my thoughts and have proven to me that a REAL person is very attractive. A person who has endured some less than desirable things, a person who has made some not so fabulous choices...but, a person who has learned from them, and is able to speak about them. I so admire that. Anyone who can take a rough or what would seem to be a negative experience and turn it into good for themselves and others...I love that.
I know people, I am one of those people that so often will slap on a smile when I am struggling...and while I do think we should try to always smile through even heartache, it is also very appropriate to humble ourselves and endure the emotions we need to. I think saying what is on our hearts is so admirable. I've told Rob MANY times "ok...don't judge me, but, I feel..." or "it might not be right...but, I feel...". There is something freeing in showing our true colors, showing the good and the bad when we need to. Revealing our true emotions is not always easy, and so many repress those feelings, so many shut the door on those feelings and forget that it is liberating speaking them, it is healthy to speak them...and, often working through them comes easier when you say them aloud and express.
When we are transparent we become very real to ourselves, and to the people that surround us. I love transparency....I love when people show their true colors..and often, it is times of crisis that we learn who someone really is. I do agree, that when we open these doors to transparency we become more vulnerable to persecution and judgement...but, we are also freed. We are so real, and often times people are not judging our emotions, they are more likely judging us because transparency doesn't come as easy to them. I think you'll find the people that shut the door often struggle the most and tend the endure things on their own more often...which, in my opinion is not always the most healthy option.
It's a practice...opening up and being a book others can read it not easy at all. I know that first hand. However, think of all of the lives we can impact by our realness! Think of all the people we might be able to help, people who know they are no longer alone.
Be real today....and, I will try right along with you. Share the true emotions that you feel....say you are sorry when you need to...admit when you are wrong...and be freed...saving face is no longer important...your honor..your prestige is not important...be real....REAL IS THE NEW BEAUTIFUL...
-Thin Again-
I really had no idea what to write about today, and discovered this quote from a wonderful book 'Thin Again,' and realized that was just perfect! Revealing ourselves, our TRUE self is really difficult, especially in a society that would have us believe we all should, and need to be perfect. I've said it so many times this past year, to Rob especially that I admire anyone who can humble themselves enough to ask for forgiveness...and who can say what is true. Anyone who can admit to a struggle, profess a struggle, and show who they really are..I admire that, there is something very real, very stark about that to me. There are so many people in my history that have molded my thoughts and have proven to me that a REAL person is very attractive. A person who has endured some less than desirable things, a person who has made some not so fabulous choices...but, a person who has learned from them, and is able to speak about them. I so admire that. Anyone who can take a rough or what would seem to be a negative experience and turn it into good for themselves and others...I love that.
I know people, I am one of those people that so often will slap on a smile when I am struggling...and while I do think we should try to always smile through even heartache, it is also very appropriate to humble ourselves and endure the emotions we need to. I think saying what is on our hearts is so admirable. I've told Rob MANY times "ok...don't judge me, but, I feel..." or "it might not be right...but, I feel...". There is something freeing in showing our true colors, showing the good and the bad when we need to. Revealing our true emotions is not always easy, and so many repress those feelings, so many shut the door on those feelings and forget that it is liberating speaking them, it is healthy to speak them...and, often working through them comes easier when you say them aloud and express.
When we are transparent we become very real to ourselves, and to the people that surround us. I love transparency....I love when people show their true colors..and often, it is times of crisis that we learn who someone really is. I do agree, that when we open these doors to transparency we become more vulnerable to persecution and judgement...but, we are also freed. We are so real, and often times people are not judging our emotions, they are more likely judging us because transparency doesn't come as easy to them. I think you'll find the people that shut the door often struggle the most and tend the endure things on their own more often...which, in my opinion is not always the most healthy option.
It's a practice...opening up and being a book others can read it not easy at all. I know that first hand. However, think of all of the lives we can impact by our realness! Think of all the people we might be able to help, people who know they are no longer alone.
Be real today....and, I will try right along with you. Share the true emotions that you feel....say you are sorry when you need to...admit when you are wrong...and be freed...saving face is no longer important...your honor..your prestige is not important...be real....REAL IS THE NEW BEAUTIFUL...