I read something this morning...that was so well said, I cannot claim this as my own, and I'm uncertain where the quotes derives, but, I can tell you that it is wonderful..."seeking validation is the same as saying "tell me who I am! Tell me what I am worth!"...tell YOURSELF!"
I happen to believe that we spend too much time seeking approval, validation, and acceptance from far too many people. I'm here to tell you that I am guilty of it too. However, recently I've learned that what matters the most is that I am safe and comfortable in my own skin. I do not want to live in toxic skin...unhappy skin...I want to reside somewhere with a warm and kind heart, I want to love deeply, and I want to put good into our world...I accept myself as I am. I do not need someone else to tell me they accept me.
I'm a work in progress, and I'm never satisfied with myself as I am...but, I am comfortable in my skin...I believe we should all be a work in progress...as a wife and mother I always need to be trying to improve...however, I do not need validation.
I know so many people...so many walks of life...so many odd familyships, friendships, relationships...so much that is so different in so many ways...but, I love the difference in people...I do not need to know someone else's life story to accept them...God made them, and He wants us to love one another. That is just that. I do not require an elaborate production to approve of someone, I do not need to know the in's and out's of where they came from and why...I need to know someone's heart...and who they are right now, in this moment.
I guess while others are busy seeking acceptance, validation, and approval I want to be busy walking forward...you can walk with me...or you can walk behind me...that's your choice...but, I choose to be busy living while you are busy deciding of you accept me or not. I do not need someone else to utter the words "I accept you..." to allow myself a sigh of relief...I accept me...and really, that is all that matters.
I happen to believe that we spend too much time seeking approval, validation, and acceptance from far too many people. I'm here to tell you that I am guilty of it too. However, recently I've learned that what matters the most is that I am safe and comfortable in my own skin. I do not want to live in toxic skin...unhappy skin...I want to reside somewhere with a warm and kind heart, I want to love deeply, and I want to put good into our world...I accept myself as I am. I do not need someone else to tell me they accept me.
I'm a work in progress, and I'm never satisfied with myself as I am...but, I am comfortable in my skin...I believe we should all be a work in progress...as a wife and mother I always need to be trying to improve...however, I do not need validation.
I know so many people...so many walks of life...so many odd familyships, friendships, relationships...so much that is so different in so many ways...but, I love the difference in people...I do not need to know someone else's life story to accept them...God made them, and He wants us to love one another. That is just that. I do not require an elaborate production to approve of someone, I do not need to know the in's and out's of where they came from and why...I need to know someone's heart...and who they are right now, in this moment.
I guess while others are busy seeking acceptance, validation, and approval I want to be busy walking forward...you can walk with me...or you can walk behind me...that's your choice...but, I choose to be busy living while you are busy deciding of you accept me or not. I do not need someone else to utter the words "I accept you..." to allow myself a sigh of relief...I accept me...and really, that is all that matters.